Forgiveness

Forgive:
1. to grant pardon for or remission of (an offense, debt, etc.); absolve.
2. to give up all claim on account of; remit (a debt, obligation, etc.).
3. to grant pardon to (a person).
4. to cease to feel resentment against: to forgive one's enemies.

Many people in life never learn how to perform this action. And it's a sad thing when forgiveness is a forgotten trait, especially among friendships. Over the years, I've endeavored many hurtful scenarios ranging anywhere from family to friends to coworkers. However, all of these moments I have forgiven, as we all make mistakes and no one is perfect. We are human.

Certain individuals remain out of my life despite my forgiveness toward their previous actions, only because they continue to adhere to those actions. Unfortunately, some people never change and it's difficult to maintain a friendship when heads are going to be butted constantly.

Others have slowly drifted from my life, as interests have differed and the real world has swept us into its relentless routine that allows very little time to even breathe. Many of them I miss, and many of them I wonder if they are holding a grudge against me and refuse to forgive me for whatever I may have done. I may never know, but I know not to let the thought rule my life.

Needless to say, I don't believe in holding grudges, no matter the circumstances (unless of course it involves absolutely life-changing devastation, such as murder or identity theft, or even any kind of theft). Sure, it's okay upset and mad for a small period of time, it's only natural, but burning your bridges is only going to bite you in the ass later in life, especially when you least expect it. Forgive. Accept your friends, your family members, and other folks you encounter in your daily life for who they are, including their flaws. All of my family, friends (and myself) and other individuals whom I encounter often have their flaws as we are not perfect, but I love them for them, which includes flaws, because I would not have them any other way.

One of my favorite quotes comes from "My Big Fat Greek Wedding," and it speaks so many truths:

"Don't let your past dictate who you are, but let it be a part of who you will be."

Things happen, things change, and mostly for the better. So forgive the past, let be a part of who you are today (as I'm sure it has strengthened you in many ways), but don't let it rule your life.

Everyone lives only once, so don't dwell on the past, don't submerge yourself in regret, but most of all don't live in anger and hatred.

PEACE~LOVE~EDITING